Yeah, I know what you mean when you speak of it "several months" to get over a great loss/trauma. It's been a little over 3 years since B.J. died. Am I "over it"? No. Do I function? Yes. And totally pharmaceutical-free. But I have the advantage of knowing that these drugs are poison. Most people still trust their doctors and the medicines they prescribe. And I can just imagine how these drugs could affect someone who was actually "depressed" due to a tragedy. Their lows could become unbearable.
A friend of mine found out a few weeks ago that her 24-year old son has terminal cancer. Needless to say, she is distraught. She called me one day last week to give me an update on his prognosis (2 - 8 months, if he takes chemo). During the conversation, I asked how she was coping, how she felt. She said "I shouldn't tell you this, but I am okay now because my doctor gave me Paxil. Now I can talk about it and see my son without crying." I asked her how the Rx came about. She says she went to her quack because she had a really bad cold and was very congested. During that time, the doctor asked her about her sons, who he cared for as teens but hadn't treated since they grew up and found their own doctors. She started to cry and told him about Seth. He wrote her a script, saying that he was giving her a "safe" antidepressant with a long track record of limited side effects, and was putting her on half the dose he "normally" prescribed because he b
elieved her depression as
brought on by Seth's diagnosis and it would help her through this rough time. I told her that everyone has to make their own medical decisions, warned her about the possible effects of changing dosage/medication and about the dangers of withdrawing/discontinuing. I made her promise not to stop cold turkey, but to let me know if she decides to quit so I can give her information about the right way to do it. Then I asked her if she really thought it was a good thing to be able to face the imminent death of someone you love without crying, without sadness, anger, rage, fear and all of the other emotions that make us human. I asked her how she thinks she might feel in a couple of years if she looks back and realizes that while she was numb enough to "feel better" and be able to not cry, she was also too numb to love, cherish, reminisce, laugh and enjoy the last few days/weeks/months of her son's life. She was startled but too calm about my tough words. I really wo
rry.
BTW, we heard from Jenny for only the second time since she left on September 18th for Kuwait (on the way to Iraq). She is bored out of her mind, says there is not much for them to do because they are there but their helicopters are still enroute, and that the Saudis and Kuwaitis who run the base she is at are very suspicious of the Americans. Our troops are basically being treated as though they are spying on the Kuwaitis/Saudis. Odd, huh?
Terry
Jim < mofunnow%40swbell.net">mofunnow
swbell.net> wrote:
Anytime something bad happens the psych drugs
will magically appear.
I have been reading a biography of John Adams
our second president. It mentions many deaths
occuring of people around Adams and Jefferson
and they were very much effected and usually took
several months to recover. I'm thinking of
Jefferson losing his wife and then one of his
children.
It's plain to me that both would probably not
have done near what they accomplished if they were
placed on the mind altering drug of the day
Laudanum or "wine of opium"; to alleviate their
pain from lose.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Laudanum
Though John Adams did write to his wife, Abigail,
and refer to one of her letters to him as Laudanum
which implies he had some knowledge of it.
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Sent: Tuesday, September 26, 2006 8:01 PM
Subject: [SSRI-Crusaders] Two Sago Mine workers commit suicide
Two Sago Mine workers commit suicide - Yahoo! News
http://news.yahoo.com/s/ap/20060926/ap_on_re_us/mine_explosion_suicides
Article says one had "been depressed" and one had been
"ill." SSRIs, I'll bet. Sad...so sad.
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