Lost connection

I have lost the connection with my mother, we hardly
talk anymore and I KNOW WHY. Its tearing me from the
inside out. If I do talk I AM EDGY, talk rudely with
her. She is under alot of stress herself and now I am
adding to it. What is wrong with me!!


 
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Megan,

It takes two people to be in a relationship.  If there is a
problem in
the relationship, it is a problem for both of you.

Being angry at your mother for failing to protect you from
being
abused is important.  Being hurt and disappointed with your
mother for
her inability to protect you and comprehend the damage that
the abuse
did to you is an understandable reaction and a common
reaction.

It will take time to work through your feelings about your
mother and
her inabilities.  The only person that you can control or
change is
yourself.

Your mother may never be the person that you want her to be.
 That's a
hard lesson to come to terms with.  It will take time.

Some people find writing a letter to their mother and
talking about
your hurt and rage and disappointment, and then burning the
letter
afterwards to be a helpful technique for processing the
rage, the hurt
and the disappointment.

One thing I know from my experience is that my rage, anger,
and
disappointment comes in waves.  So you may need to do this
more than
once.

There is nothing wrong with you.  What you are feeling and
experiencing is a common reaction to what happened to you.

Go gentle with yourself, and take care as best you can.

beckie







On 2/14/07, Megan Wilken <meggiehwyahoo.com> wrote:
>
> I have lost the connection with my mother, we hardly
> talk anymore and I KNOW WHY. Its tearing me from the
> inside out. If I do talk I AM EDGY, talk rudely with
> her. She is under alot of stress herself and now I am
> adding to it. What is wrong with me!!
>
>
>
>
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> Browse Top Cars by "Green Rating" at Yahoo!
Autos' Green Center.
> http://autos.yah
oo.com/green_center/
>
> >
>


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insanity."
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I've discovered the best tool against a thief, whatever you
might want 
to call THE DEVIL....whose mission is ONLY to STEAL,KILL,
and 
DESTROY....is one thing-----the one thing an enemy cannot 
touch-forgiveness.  It is amazing what walls will go down in
the face 
of forgiveness.  And the thing is, it does not have to be
face to face. 
  It is part of the 12 Step program that has worked for so
many people 
around the world.  And it might begin with making a list. 
Forgiveness 
is a choice. So I'd head my paper, "I choose to forgive
 _____ 
for.....and then list everything you have against her, that
which 
separates the two of you. It's the only way I've managed to
have any 
relationship at all with my father, who was my abuser. 
Otherwise....bitterness takes root inside your body and rots
your 
bones. No bones, no blood. Life is in the blood. No
structure. You can 
have all the lean muscle mass in the world but it has to
stick to 
something!  My dad has osteoporosis. Lotsa bitterness in
him. He has 
compression fractures in his spine and has recently lost
three inches 
in height. I can now look in the eye the man that used to
abuse me. I 
have power over him. However....I checked my own bone
density 
yesterday. Guess who ELSE has high risk osteoporosis!! I
STILL have a 
lot of forgiveness to do!!!

Cynthia 


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